Rajiv Singh,TNN | Dec 22, 2013, 12.00 AM IST
When the Supreme Court announced that a live-in relationship was neither a crime nor a sin, many couples rejoiced and hailed the judiciary for their broad-minded approach. But when it comes to actually sharing a living space with their partner, Bhopal's couples, it seems, are a little less broad-minded. That's what seems to be the case, according to Bhopal's Mahila Thana. The cops there say that they have to put up with a lot of overly sentimental girls and guys, who come to them complaining about their 'inconsiderate' partners, who don't care for them the way they used to in the beginning of their relationship. From a 'he doesn't cook for me anymore' to 'she doesn't let me watch TV' - the list is long!
Some may find it hard to believe that girls and boys are living-in in Bhopal. But the fact is that not only are couples living together, they are also heading to the police station at the drop of a hat. Says Aruna Mohan Rao, ADG (crime against women), Bhopal, "The law on live-in relationships is very clear, and we take all complaints seriously. Mostly, girls come to us, and no matter what the nature of the complaint is, we try to remain patient with them. We do get a lot of frivolous complaints, but we try to counsel couples." About the concept of live-ins in the city, Aruna Mohan adds, "Most of them are outstation college students and young professionals. They don't have their family around to object. Bhopal is not a metro, and people still don't allow unmarried girls and boys to live together. So these youngsters tell the landlord that they are cousins or that they are married, and easily get a house on rent. The landlords also don't bother to verify."
Renu V Murab, in-charge, Mahila Thana, says, "We have to put up with a lot of illogical and baseless complaints. Of course, we don't turn them away, we counsel them instead. Someone forgot to water his girlfriend's favourite plant and the girl comes here, asking us to lodge a complaint. Now, how do we solve such issues? We work on genuine complaints, of which we've had only 9-10 this year."
We bring to you some of the most bizarre complaints shared by the officials of Mahila Thana.
Why should only I cook?
Aftab Laiq Ahmed, a counsellor at Mahila Thana, says, "Living in is legal, and we try to solve genuine problems that young couples come to us with. But we really don't know what to do with their rona-dhona. In one such instance, a girl had come to us complaining that her boyfriend doesn't help her cook anymore. She went on and on saying how her boyfriend would prepare meals for her in the beginning of their relationship. Obviously, we can't register a case on that basis. I tried to talk them through the issue. Jab naye naye saath rehte hain toh they try to impress each other, but when that doesn't happen after a time, they come to us complaining."
My girlfriend has left me broke
Counsellor Ahmed has another such incident to narrate. He says, "A guy had come to complain that his girlfriend had left him broke. He said that earlier, they had agreed to share all the expenses, but later, the girl started fighting with him, saying that he should not ask for her money. The guy was exasperated and was asking us to help him get back all his money. And he kept saying, 'Main ATM toh nahi hoon, meri girlfriend mujhse itne paise maangti rehti hai.' Now, what does one say in such a situation?"
Are you cheating on me?
Sub-inspector Kamalti Dhurve recalls, "It is rather strange how these lovelorn youngsters fight with each other over trivial issues. A guy had come, asking us to help him get rid of his girlfriend! She wanted to meet his parents, and according to the guy, his parents had died several years ago. When I asked him why he didn't tell this to her in the beginning of their relationship, he said that it was a 'casual' live-in relationship, and he didn't know this would become such a big issue. Now, the girl is accusing him of cheating on her. It sometimes becomes crazy for us."
Talk to me and only me
This comes straight out of a saas-bahu soap. "A girl had come to lodge a complaint against her boyfriend, accusing him of not giving enough time to her. That itself was too much for us to handle, and then she started listing all her problems. She said her boyfriend constantly talks to his relatives, which wasn't the case when they had begun living together. So, what do we charge the guy with? For not talking to his girlfriend? We tried to counsel the girl, saying that all relationships have their highs and lows. But she didn't budge. She said she will leave the police station only when we register the case. We finally had to call the guy, and only when we warned them that we will have to call their parents to solve the matter, did they leave," says another police official at Mahila Thana.
She doesn't let me watch TV
"A girl had come to the police station saying that her boyfriend had harassed her. We were considering it a genuine case until we called the guy to the station. Both of them started quarrelling in front of us, accusing each other of being dominating. The girl stated that the guy always had problems with her clothes, and he didn't allow her to wear jeans. Then the guy started complaining about how she was a control freak and didn't let him watch TV. Such situations sometimes get on our nerves. Itni problem hai toh saath mein kyon rehte hain? Pehle mummy-papa ko jhooth bol ke live-in mein rehte hain, aur phir hamare paas aa jaate hai apni silly problems lekar," says another police official at Mahila Thana.
She complained against me, now I will also complain
Paresh*, an employee at a private company, says, "I didn't know the girl I was dating would turn out to be a nut case. After a few months of courtship, we started living together. But soon, the problems started. Maine ek baar bass itna poochh liya why she got so late, and she got agitated and started throwing things at me. Woh toh phir bhi theek tha, but she went ahead and complained against me to the police. Din bhar mujhe police station mein spend karna pada while the cops interrogated me. Now, I've decided. I'll also complain against her. She is such a nasty person. The decision of living together was a big mistake."
http://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/life-style/relationships/man-woman/What-Bhopals-live-in-couples-have-to-say/articleshow/27732214.cms?intenttarget=no
The law on live-ins and the Mahila Thana - both had serious intent behind them when they were established.
But live-in couples in the city (yes, there are many) are apparently unaware of this, and their frivolous complaints have the Mahila Thana cops at the end of their tether - after all, they say, 'mujhe TV dekhne nahin deti' is hardly a law and order problem!
But live-in couples in the city (yes, there are many) are apparently unaware of this, and their frivolous complaints have the Mahila Thana cops at the end of their tether - after all, they say, 'mujhe TV dekhne nahin deti' is hardly a law and order problem!
What Bhopal’s live-in couples have to say
When the Supreme Court announced that a live-in relationship was neither a crime nor a sin, many couples rejoiced and hailed the judiciary for their broad-minded approach. But when it comes to actually sharing a living space with their partner, Bhopal's couples, it seems, are a little less broad-minded. That's what seems to be the case, according to Bhopal's Mahila Thana. The cops there say that they have to put up with a lot of overly sentimental girls and guys, who come to them complaining about their 'inconsiderate' partners, who don't care for them the way they used to in the beginning of their relationship. From a 'he doesn't cook for me anymore' to 'she doesn't let me watch TV' - the list is long!
Some may find it hard to believe that girls and boys are living-in in Bhopal. But the fact is that not only are couples living together, they are also heading to the police station at the drop of a hat. Says Aruna Mohan Rao, ADG (crime against women), Bhopal, "The law on live-in relationships is very clear, and we take all complaints seriously. Mostly, girls come to us, and no matter what the nature of the complaint is, we try to remain patient with them. We do get a lot of frivolous complaints, but we try to counsel couples." About the concept of live-ins in the city, Aruna Mohan adds, "Most of them are outstation college students and young professionals. They don't have their family around to object. Bhopal is not a metro, and people still don't allow unmarried girls and boys to live together. So these youngsters tell the landlord that they are cousins or that they are married, and easily get a house on rent. The landlords also don't bother to verify."
Renu V Murab, in-charge, Mahila Thana, says, "We have to put up with a lot of illogical and baseless complaints. Of course, we don't turn them away, we counsel them instead. Someone forgot to water his girlfriend's favourite plant and the girl comes here, asking us to lodge a complaint. Now, how do we solve such issues? We work on genuine complaints, of which we've had only 9-10 this year."
We bring to you some of the most bizarre complaints shared by the officials of Mahila Thana.
Why should only I cook?
Aftab Laiq Ahmed, a counsellor at Mahila Thana, says, "Living in is legal, and we try to solve genuine problems that young couples come to us with. But we really don't know what to do with their rona-dhona. In one such instance, a girl had come to us complaining that her boyfriend doesn't help her cook anymore. She went on and on saying how her boyfriend would prepare meals for her in the beginning of their relationship. Obviously, we can't register a case on that basis. I tried to talk them through the issue. Jab naye naye saath rehte hain toh they try to impress each other, but when that doesn't happen after a time, they come to us complaining."
My girlfriend has left me broke
Counsellor Ahmed has another such incident to narrate. He says, "A guy had come to complain that his girlfriend had left him broke. He said that earlier, they had agreed to share all the expenses, but later, the girl started fighting with him, saying that he should not ask for her money. The guy was exasperated and was asking us to help him get back all his money. And he kept saying, 'Main ATM toh nahi hoon, meri girlfriend mujhse itne paise maangti rehti hai.' Now, what does one say in such a situation?"
Are you cheating on me?
Sub-inspector Kamalti Dhurve recalls, "It is rather strange how these lovelorn youngsters fight with each other over trivial issues. A guy had come, asking us to help him get rid of his girlfriend! She wanted to meet his parents, and according to the guy, his parents had died several years ago. When I asked him why he didn't tell this to her in the beginning of their relationship, he said that it was a 'casual' live-in relationship, and he didn't know this would become such a big issue. Now, the girl is accusing him of cheating on her. It sometimes becomes crazy for us."
Talk to me and only me
This comes straight out of a saas-bahu soap. "A girl had come to lodge a complaint against her boyfriend, accusing him of not giving enough time to her. That itself was too much for us to handle, and then she started listing all her problems. She said her boyfriend constantly talks to his relatives, which wasn't the case when they had begun living together. So, what do we charge the guy with? For not talking to his girlfriend? We tried to counsel the girl, saying that all relationships have their highs and lows. But she didn't budge. She said she will leave the police station only when we register the case. We finally had to call the guy, and only when we warned them that we will have to call their parents to solve the matter, did they leave," says another police official at Mahila Thana.
She doesn't let me watch TV
"A girl had come to the police station saying that her boyfriend had harassed her. We were considering it a genuine case until we called the guy to the station. Both of them started quarrelling in front of us, accusing each other of being dominating. The girl stated that the guy always had problems with her clothes, and he didn't allow her to wear jeans. Then the guy started complaining about how she was a control freak and didn't let him watch TV. Such situations sometimes get on our nerves. Itni problem hai toh saath mein kyon rehte hain? Pehle mummy-papa ko jhooth bol ke live-in mein rehte hain, aur phir hamare paas aa jaate hai apni silly problems lekar," says another police official at Mahila Thana.
She complained against me, now I will also complain
Paresh*, an employee at a private company, says, "I didn't know the girl I was dating would turn out to be a nut case. After a few months of courtship, we started living together. But soon, the problems started. Maine ek baar bass itna poochh liya why she got so late, and she got agitated and started throwing things at me. Woh toh phir bhi theek tha, but she went ahead and complained against me to the police. Din bhar mujhe police station mein spend karna pada while the cops interrogated me. Now, I've decided. I'll also complain against her. She is such a nasty person. The decision of living together was a big mistake."
http://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/life-style/relationships/man-woman/What-Bhopals-live-in-couples-have-to-say/articleshow/27732214.cms?intenttarget=no
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